Hello my loves! I hope you’re all well. As I mentioned in my first post this blog is not just going to be about beauty. I would like to address some real issues and hopefully help some of you guys to feel better about some of the problems life throws at us and show you what I think about them.
Today I would like to talk about bullying and low self confidence. I’m sure there is no one who will read this post that has never been bullied/made fun out of. Sometimes when you’re bullied it sucks all of the confidence out of you. Some people can handle bullying well, whereas others don’t really know how to cope with it. In other cases, even if they cope with it they might still be affected by the things that were said to them.
So, I would just like for you to take a moment and think about a time someone bullied you, made fun out of you or even did something simple like point out an insecurity in you…
Did they call you fat? Too skinny? Annoying? Stupid? Ugly? Weird? Did they tell you that you have a stupid laugh? Bent teeth? Spots on your face?
Whatever it was, it probably made you feel insecure/embarrassed/upset.
I know what it’s like. I relate to you.
The truth is, it’s not anyone’s right to say anything about you. Unfortunately, people still do say things. But why? What are you going to get out of pointing out somebody else’s flaws and insecurities? It can also be the case that you don’t have an insecurity until someone points something out. You might not even feel insecure about it but after someone points it out it makes you notice it the next time it comes up.
I have been called names before and I have had people point out my flaws before. And in the beginning, it really used to get to me. For a while I used to just go on silent mode and think. My insecurities would go on a high and my self confidence would go on a low.
Until one day, I understood… I got it. Suddenly I thought to myself why do I care? I know who I am and I know what I am. What anyone else says shouldn’t even matter. What I think of myself is what’s important and nothing else! You will never be good enough to please everyone. There will always be a few odd people who will point out a flaw in you. Something they consider a flaw. Because somebody else might find it completely normal.
My point is, why allow someone else’s opinion put you down? You could be the most beautiful person in the world but someone will still point out how your nose is crooked or your eyes are too wide apart or your lips are too small or your forehead is too big! There will always be something that someone will point out. Don’t let it get to you. Don’t allow people to have that much control over you. Live and let live. Do not allow negativity to change you and do not spread negativity around you.
But all of that wouldn’t be necessary to do if people just simply did not bully/judge so harshly. Don’t get me wrong, I am still learning too, but in this journey of growing and changing myself I would like to maybe help some of you guys change too. Or at least get an insight of what I feel.
The truth is that there are bigger things in life than how fat or skinny someone is or how good looking someone is, how smart someone is or what clothes someone is wearing. We are humans and we can’t completely change human nature. I can’t switch off the part of your brain that makes a judgement or has an opinion. In fact, making a judgement and having an opinion is great. Just know what you have the right to judge and what you don’t have the right to judge. Because frankly, I don’t think you or I can decide whether a person is good enough if we aren’t good enough ourselves. Nobody is perfect. Understand that if it applies to yourself, it applies to others too.
I’d just like to end this post on the note that I am not perfect. I want everyone to know and understand that just because I am saying all of this doesn’t mean I have mastered how to apply it all 100% to myself. I still make mistakes and will continue doing so because I am simply human.
Thank you for reading this and I hope you enjoyed and learnt something new.
The not so perfect – Avziee X